Imagine you meet your soulmate, the man or woman of your dreams—and they are stubborn enough to ignore the simple fact that you were made for each other. Infuriating, isn’t it? It’s unbearably painful and embarrassing to be rejected by someone with whom you’re so deeply in love.
And chances are you’ve already been there. According to one survey, 93% of us have, at some point, been rejected by someone we were in love with. Yet not all of us lose our sense of self-worth because of rejection, and fewer still turn to stalking as a response. So what’s special about the people who react to rejection in such extreme ways? That’s just one of the many questions answered in Unrequited. You’ll also find out why lovesickness can make you a better artist; how being in love is a bit like snorting cocaine; and whether men and women really differ when it comes to romantic obsession.
Unrequited (2015) is a guide to the human obsession with people who will never love us. It explores how romantic obsession affects both the obsessed and the object of their desire, why some people are more prone to stalker behavior than others and how to deal with the fallout of unrequited love.
I would recommend this book to people who can’t let go of their ex, women who are unsure whether it’s appropriate for them to initiate a relationship, and romantically obsessed creatives.
Lisa A. Phillips wrote the book Public Radio: Behind the Voices and contributes to the New York Times, Psychology Today, and Cosmopolitan. She is the recipient of multiple reporting awards and is a journalism professor at the State University of New York at New Paltz.